Floriferous Ideas: The Rest Is Still Unwritten...
Musings on shifting your perspective.
I truly believe that therapy has the power to help everyone. Whether you’ve faced trauma, endured loss, or experienced something that has left a lasting mark on your life, therapy offers a space for healing, growth, and understanding. For me, therapy has been both a source of healing and discomfort. However, it has allowed me to recognise how past experiences have shaped my present thoughts and perceptions.
Inspired by this wonderful post (and series!) Kate Harvey - Change Your Perspective, Change your Life.
While it's true that what doesn’t kill you can make you stronger, it also leaves a lasting imprint on your life. In the past, I’ve embraced the belief that my experiences have shaped me, wearing them like a badge of honor—proof that I wouldn’t change a thing because they made me who I am today. To some extent, I still believe this.
I have learnt that, our minds recognise and create patterns, shaping our understanding of the world based on past experiences. Our brilliant brains create pathways, hardwiring these experiences into learnt behaviours. Over time they can become fixed filtering our reality through an outdated lens—one shaped by a difficult upbringing, a traumatic event, a toxic work environment, or a period of deep stress.
In Kates post she refers to our inner story. I spent a lot of time in therapy working through this and discovering how experiences in my life have developed into a story I tell myself. I realised that my story had developed into script, like little episodes in the long running tv series that is my life:
S1E1 The one where It’s my fault.
S1E2 The one where I am not good enough.
S1E3 The one where I bought it on myself.
S1E4 The one where I feel ashamed.
Without sharing the details of my own experiences. I know this much to be true: none of those limiting beliefs define me.
I have the power to rewire my mind, to rewrite my narrative. My past may have shaped me, but it no longer holds the pen. I can revise, remove, and reimagine. This is my story, and I have full editorial rights.
Side note: This gives a whole new meaning to Natasha Bedingfield’s Unwritten! (a feel good favourite!) On that note, I’d say this is hands down one of the most relatable Instagram reels of 2025 so far…
…You’re welcome!
I would love to know your thoughts on this and any advice you have on shifting your perspective.
I loved it when you wrote “My past may have shaped me, but it no longer holds the pen”. It resonated with me. Thank you for writing this post.